I like words. I love scrabble, crossword puzzles and most other word games (hello, pogo). But words can slice through you. I still find it hard to believe that something that a complete stranger took about 10 seconds to say is still churning around inside me. I am such a nerd that I even looked up some words this morning. Like race. Is that really based on color? Not necessarily. "A group of persons related by common descent, blood or heredity." Does that mean that it bothers these ignorant people when people marry people of any other heritage? Just processing here. I thought that I had processed my feeling on this as we considered adopting. It is just not the same as when you are faced with this discrimination, prejudice, ignorance..... I also looked up the n word. Prior to the definition it says, "offensive and disparaging". Yah think!!! Mostly I looked it up to see if by definition it referred to African-Americans or all dark skinned peoples. It is the latter.
That's another question I have about words. Is my daughter an African-American? I know she will be perceived as such. I know by birth she is Ethiopian. She is being raised in America, by Americans. Ethiopia is in Africa. So doesn't that make her African-American?
One more weird thing. When I told my 17 year old what happened, he was like "so?". I think as in "duh, mom, she is". Apparently he didn't feel this was a "offensive and disparaging" comment. Apparently he hears it often at his high school. Is this his ignorance about the feelings attached to the word? Or has it generationally become less offensive? Sometime I would like to have a more in depth conversation with him. Not sure if that will ever happen:)